These revolutionary trends notwithstanding, majority Dads are still used to taking the back seat when it comes to full scale, active parenting. One school of thought is that this division of labour works well for all. The distant Dad is a good ruse to dole out sparingly as a deterrent. What will Dad say? Dad may not agree! Dad is very disappointed! Go ask Dad. I will discuss this with Dad! These common phrases in Indian families are indicative of the deity status of Dad. He nods sagely from the throne, holding out his right hand to shell out cash or the short stick, staying clear of the brass tacks at all times.
The world is changing Daddy oh....and it is time for the family head to step into the nitty gritty. Everyone stands to gain, more particularly the daughters.
Nothing defines the father-daughter relationship in India as succinctly as the song, “Babul ki duaaen leti jaa, jaa tujhko sukhi sansaar mile....” And every self-respecting Indian father and daughter knows this song! But it is no longer enough for the father to give the sobbing daughter a farewell shoulder hug and that pat on the head. He has got to wake up and smell the coffee. His role and significance in his children’s lives have leapt to monumental proportions while he was walking that shuffle to the flower bedecked “doli” car.
It is a welcome sign that the great modern Dads are coming off their high horses to vocalize their love and unconditional acceptance to their units. They are respectful of the women in the family and value their daughter’s feminism! Capable of being silly and having fun, they are not fighting shy of making their feelings known. They are honourable family heads their daughters can trust and confide in.
Three cheers and welcome to the front seat, Dads!!!